Monday, May 5, 2014

Be Selective

Be not deceived:  evil communications corrupt good manners.
1 Corinthians 15:33 (KJV)

We have dealt with the importance of being realistic, knowing that what we sow, we will reap.  Today, I want us to focus on something specifically--communication.

communication-the imparting or exchanging of information or news

The Bible warns us that evil communications corrupt good manners or good character (NIV).  So based on our above definition, we must realize that we are receiving as well as giving.  Let's not make the mistake of limiting communication to verbal.  Remember it is the imparting or exchanging of information.  Communication is occurring constantly whether we realize it or not.  Therefore, we have to be extremely selective.

Let's begin by looking at the receiving end--what communication am I receiving?  I firmly believe that what we spend our time on is what is important to us.  Therefore, if I spend big time slots pursuing my own desires while ignoring the ministry of wifehood and motherhood, that hobby, TV show, ministering to others, etc., is more important than my family.  

Being selective in our communication begins with having the right priorities.  We should seek to communicate with God continuously.  Beginning our day with calling out to Him and reading His Word are vital spiritual disciplines.  Devotional books and/or any other books should in no way replace the Bible just as listening to sermons should not replace your prayer time.  We have a direct connection to God, let's use it!

What do you watch?  What do you read?  What do you listen to?

Many can take the approach that they are allowed to watch/listen/read things they wouldn't allow their children to watch/listen/read.  We justify ourselves by stating that they are not old enough to see such things or understand certain themes.  These are excuses to justify our carnality.  It is also hypocrisy.  Our heavenly Father doesn't want us to listen/watch/read those things either.

I will set before my eyes 
no vile thing.
The deeds of faithless men I
they will not cling to me.
Psalm 101:3

God does not want us to contaminate ourselves with the filth of this world because He knows that it will corrupt us and our families.  We can not feed our minds and hearts with the trash of sin portrayed in the media and think that we can remain pure.  

A wise person is hungry for knowledge, while the food feeds on trash.
Proverbs 15:14 (NLT)

Let's not be deceived.  Let us be selective in what we are spending our time reading/watching/listening.  

Now let's have a look at what we are giving.  What do our husbands hear come out of our mouths?  How do we discipline our children?  How do we handle unexpected situations?  Do our family members see us live out the Gospel we preach?

We must be selective about the words we see and the actions we take.  We must have boundaries that are not to be crossed both in marriage and with our children.  Saying or doing hurtful, spiteful things can easily be avoided when boundaries are set.  (For example,  don't threaten your spouse with divorce or discipline your children in anger.)

Remember that communication is not always verbal.  Sometimes the silence we take says more than any spoken word.  It can be that deafening silence that invokes fear, disapproval, and rejection.  Do we want that to be our communication?  Instead, let us turn to our Father and ask Him for help to communicate as clearly and thoroughly as possible to avoid any misunderstandings.  

Let us seek to have an ongoing communication with Jesus to avoid corruption of our character and that of our families.  Let us be extremely selective about what we set before our eyes and tune our ears to.  Ears to hear and eyes to see--both are gifts from the LORD (Proverbs 20:12 NLT)  Let us not be deceived into thinking that what we feed on will not affect what we serve to others.  

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May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14